Therapy journey for single women can feel like walking a tightrope between faith, expectations, and deep personal healing. Welcome back…glad you didn’t ghost me like most of the men I’ve dated. If you’re wondering, yes, I am still single brought to you by the letter S and the number 1.
How Your Tribe Can Spark a Therapy Journey for Single Women
What is one to do when they have questions they are unable to answer? You go to the tribe you entrust your life decisions and disappointments to. The ones who will hype you like a City Girls track or gather your life like Iyanla Vanzant.
Overcoming Doubts to Begin a Therapy Journey for Single Women
A good friend of mine had mentioned she started going to therapy and the wonders it was doing in her life. And to be honest, I was happy for her—but in the way you’re happy when your homeboy tells you he’s about to drop his mixtape. She would drop these gems from her therapy sessions and I’d eat them up like free samples at Costco on a Saturday. However, they didn’t sustain me.
If I was honest, my performative, religious, traditional church mind wouldn’t let me see that God could in fact raise up people to heal, teach, and enlighten me that didn’t have a minister, pastor, or bishop tied to their name.
Being a PK and the Pressure of Perfection
I mean, in my defense, I am a PK – preacher’s kid – and have been in church my whole life, so why couldn’t I just pray my singleness away and wait alone in my home for my Boaz like the holy rollers said… Isn’t that how they found their husbands?
Thank God for a tribe who isn’t with the sh*ts and will tell you, “You are actually the reason you are single!” Talk about sparing one’s feelings. After soaking up the freebies my friend shared from her therapy session, and making a pact with my sisterfriends about self-care for 2020, I embarked on this therapy journey for single women like myself.
Pivotal Moments That Begin a Therapy Journey for Single Women
I was stepping out on faith—literally—and sharing my darkest, deepest shames and feelings with a complete stranger and paying for it with my FSA – Flexible Spending Account. Made total sense to me… not.
Here’s the truth: I was sick and tired of being sick and tired. And if I was completely honest, I could see the change in my friend. In essence, her “mixtape” was poppin, lol. So, I figured, what do I have to lose?
The First Steps Weren’t Easy
It was clear I had no idea what I was in for. Who knew the journey would begin well before my first session with Angela Harper? Getting to her… was enough to make you want to abort the whole mission.
Well, I’m out of time for now. Until we meet again… Can you identify your tribe? Do you have a community that holds you accountable? Let us hear your voice, our community wants to hear from you!
Written by: Erica
M.O.T.M StoryTeller
If you’re exploring what healing looks like beyond traditional spaces, The Loveland Foundation Therapy Fund offers meaningful support for Black women and girls pursuing therapy. It’s one way to make the therapy journey for single women more accessible and community-backed.