Paternity vs. School
Has anyone ever stopped to ask you how you feel about your children’s going back to school? Have you experienced the feeling of excitement for this new stage for them, but at the same time the anxiety for the financial expense it represents and also for the fears of what lies ahead? We understand you perfectly, today we will talk from parents to parents about this. The mental burden that this represents for us representatives has been neglected for a long time. And we must be resourceful to succeed each year. Let’s start by talking about the fears that may arise: Not being able to fully cover the cost of school supplies. Not finding the right clothes that last all year long and that at the same time make our children feel comfortable and look good. The idea that your children will find new companions and not knowing if they will all be good friends or how they can deal with relationships when a problem arises. Pressure to be an ideal support to help you achieve your highest school grades. The daily anxiety of being partly responsible for them being punctual in their classes.The fear of calls for attention from teachers and managers. Among many other uncertainties that arise and that we just let them flow without having a parent manual for this. Certainly being parents does not have a definitive guide but we have compiled some recommendations so that you can better deal with these situations. We leave them below: Do not pressure yourself by demanding all the supplies because perhaps your children do not need all of them on the first day of school, buy the priority ones and then the others, keep in mind that even at the end of the year they do not use all the supplies they ask for in the school list. So talk about this with your children so that they also learn to be aware and know how to work with what is necessary. Remember that the most important thing is the development of their skills and the acquisition of knowledge. Let’s not raise highly materialistic children. Negotiates with clothes, nowadays teenagers especially care more about their appearance, and this is fine as long as it is not the only and main thing. Children today believe that they go to school for a fashion show and show off compared to the outfits that others wear. As parents we fall into this error too. Ideally, you should teach your children associated values. And above all not to judge by appearance those who do not have expensive clothes. It teaches prudence and balance. Teach your children to be responsible for their homework, if they need help you can support and you cannot do it, you can find private teachers to improve the subject in which they have a low grade. Encourage him to surpass himself, NOT to be the best in his class. Don’t judge him for his low grades or blame yourself. Also teach him not to judge others on their academic scores. After all, all children learn at different rates and they are all in school to learn. Punctuality is essential to be successful in life, but I assure you that with the daily stress of being on time for class, you will quickly collapse as a family. Set an example and teach your children to prepare everything they need the night before. They will save time. And the mornings will be more productive and joyful. Education begins at home, your child’s behavior in class depends on them, but if he ever receives a call for attention, do not be alarmed, always dialogue and listen to his reasons. Discipline but do not punish, human beings are changeable and sometimes circumstances make us lose our temper. Better teach and practice emotional intelligence at home with your children. This will help you know how to be ready for school and for life. However, this has been presented for many years but now we must deal with the uncertainty of choosing between virtual and face-to-face classes. Choose what is best for your children, they will thank you in the future. And if you have problems with any specific paternity issues, contact us we can help you with family therapies. We loved sharing this topic with you, if you liked it, share it yourself or leave us a comment. Anabel BriceñoBrand Advisor and Copywriter for M.O.T.M.V.
Work vs quality time. How to reach a balance?
Do you spend a lot of time working?Even though you like your job, can’t you find a way to have time for recreation or relaxation?Do you feel that if you do not work, you are not useful or you cannot live well, since for that you need a constant income?It happens to all of us at some point, but be careful to fall into your own network and stop enjoying the good times in life.Whether you work for a company or have your own business or undertaking, it is important that you know how to separate your work time, your time alone or with your family.As much as you love your job, and as good as you feel while doing it. The truth is, we all need a break.A weekend, a month’s vacation. Or just at least a couple of hours a day to relax.You know that we are right.So do not be fooled by the idea that you work a lot because that makes you happy, because surely at some point you have wanted to take a break.Do not worry, take it when necessary, this is allowed and favors your well-being.Another lie we tell ourselves is that if we do not work hard we will not achieve anything.It’s okay to work toward your goals, because we understand that many things require money.But what is not right is that you put your life on pause just to work.Have you ever thought about how many hours you really work a day?We believe that we adhere to a schedule but most of the time we are answering emails or talking to clients or bosses even during dinner or a family outing.Do you know something? The world can wait.You work enough already, allow yourself to enjoy the process, make it part of your planning.Here we will leave you some recommendations so that you can achieve it:* Establish a work schedule and stick to it. No excess overtime.* Have a Smartphone for work and other staff, this will allow you to completely disconnect from work.From all that money you save and produce by working, reserve a little or enough to pay you days offIf you work at home, take at least an hour a day to go out, recreation, or exercise.If you have the possibility, delegate so that your business can continue to function while you are away.And finally, DO NOT feel guilty for taking breaks, you deserve them, you need them and you have every right to enjoy them, AVOID feeling unproductive.A balance between work and quality of life will give you many satisfactions.Apply it and if you have any questions or need help with matters on your mind, contact one of our therapists here (insert link)And remember if you feel tired, take care of your mind.If the mind is healed, the body will follow.Give yourself space. Anabel BriceñoBrand Advisor and Copywriter for M.O.T.M.V.
How to get rid of lack of concentration
We are all exposed to an immense amount of information and activities that make us feel that our days are ending faster and faster and that we need more hours to achieve what we want. Have you ever felt like this? The truth is that we are solely responsible for managing our time, and to think that they are only external factors, is to deceive ourselves. The first thing that is required to avoid unnecessary distractions is concentration, will and determination. Let’s start by differentiating the distractions: It is very good to be distracted and have recreation time with friends, alone or with family, this is essential to have a full life. What is NOT okay is to get carried away by the type of distractions that are NOT related to our obligations, goals and objectives of life because this prevents us from getting what we want and frustrates us. For example, a person who wants to buy or build a house must set goals: perhaps monthly savings, apply for a loan that has to be paid in a disciplined way and for this, establish a period of time in which this can be achieved – say maybe 3 years minimum. But what happens if during those 3 years one gets distracted, savings fail, one buys many pairs of shoes or decorations for the house where you currently live? Then the goal will be postponed and one will begin to feel frustrated; even some do not realize it and think that they cannot achieve it. And actually the only thing that happened was that you gave in many times to distractions and expenses that were not a priority at the time. That is why we say that it takes will, discipline and determination to focus on something that benefits us. That’s a very complex example, but distractions also exist in small day-to-day activities. How many times have you had a good idea and say that you are going to undertake a new adventure and never start it, it is not only because you are busy with your work or family, it is because in many cases you are distracted again in tasks that, if you realize it, are not a priority. So to avoid unnecessary distractions, the first thing to do is have some planning. When you set one or more goals, you must be aware of the amount of time you want and be willing to dedicate and translate it so that you can visualize and execute it step by step. That is why our recommendation is that you have big goals, specific goals and daily objectives all aligned so that they can help you achieve that great goal. This will allow you to follow a productive routine, but remember to give yourself time for rest and recreation within that plan, because enjoying the present is also part of success – the idea is to enjoy the process while you achieve your dreams. Now if you have already tried this and it is difficult for you to fulfill your plan, there is something you should know: You need to be motivated. And for this we leave you two recommendations: Visualize your great goal each day. Imagine that you have already achieved it and enjoy the feeling it causes in your body and mind. Celebrate every step you take that you know brings you closer to that goal, no matter how small. Apply the phrase, “do not look at what you lack, but at everything you have accomplished”. This will help you cultivate patience, be happy in the process, and avoid anxiety. Let’s move on to the second phase, because perhaps you are good at avoiding distractions, and you are always ready to do your part, the problem is that you have a lack of concentration. Even though you are ready to move on, your thoughts wander all over the place and you just can’t seem to control it. The first thing you should know is, what causes lack of concentration so that you can combat it, the most common causes are stress, anxiety, lack of sleep, fatigue, fear and disgust, but also apathy and demotivation. So If you feel this in the face of any activity, it is very likely that you will not be able to concentrate. We leave you some tips to treat this: Choose work and recreational activities that you really want to do. Sleep well, do physical exercise and eat healthy. Dedicate yourself to things that you like and that generate a feeling of well-being while you do them, so you will be focused most of the time. Remember that practice makes perfect, decide today to make a change in your life and if you need even more help for this, get in touch with one of the therapeutic professionals at Matters Of The Mind Vaultage, by clicking on this link. Anabel BriceñoBrand Advisor and Copywriter for M.O.T.M.V.
The Day of Truth: Is it a Juxtaposition?
From a young age and even both at home and at school we have been taught to practice the value of “the truth”, this is part of the basic but essential principles of every family. We are told that being honest is the right thing to do, that it will give us a good reputation, that it will make us have better relationships and that by applying “the truth” we will do better in life. So this value is something that we have as a chip incorporated into our behavior, but that we often do automatically. Before we move on, let’s review various concepts and phrases about truth to understand their origins and definitions. “Truth is a value linked to honesty that implies the attitude of maintaining truthfulness in words and actions at all times. It is the basic pillar where moral conscience is oriented and includes trust in that society; where we all need each other to truly live. “ The practical truth, according to Aristotle, occurs in man thanks to the fact that a true opinion arises within the soul and simultaneously a right action. The false in the sphere of actions occurs, on the contrary, with the emergence of a false opinion and an unrighteous action. As for Socrates, the truth is a continuous search, always unfinished. He argued that the truth will never be reached. In addition, he demanded to be faithful to the definition of things, therefore we must be faithful to this search (Ethics). So, before everything that is presented as true, a critical and analytical attitude must be exercised first, to then propose the true meaning of what is criticized. So, you must not only be content with criticizing but you must offer a meaning and propose of truth. Socrates and Aristotle have different views on the truth, and each one is the truth “their truth” that represents them. On the contrary, in practice, the truth is about that coherence between what is said and what is done and this is of almost universal application. That is to say that in the colloquial and known the truth is much more aligned with being honest, outside of philosophizing, so in this sense let’s talk then about the advantages and disadvantages of “telling the truth”: Telling the truth allows us to: • Live in harmony with the environment.• Have a clear conscience.• Cultivate trusting relationships.• Project credibility.• Gain influence. Now telling the truth in 100% of cases has its disadvantages, because that leads to expressing opinions as they are thought and that can lead to conflicts in society, let’s see the disadvantages of being completely honest: • You can hurt or offend others even if you express yourself with the greatest possible respect.• You can alienate people who do not agree with your ideas or statements if you do not clarify that you respect their opposition.• You can compromise your integrity if the truth you want to express is rejected by the masses. So a lot of prudence and courage is required in these three cases. Because the truth of each one has a price and you must be willing to pay it. In some cases they generate satisfaction but in other cases of greater social repercussion it can generate persecution. As we have seen, talking about the truth would cover much more than one article, because there are many theories and variables of what this means. Therefore, today we really want to promote this value so necessary in these times where it seems that being honest has gone out of style for a large group of this generation. What we are sure of is that by applying the truth we will be better as a society. Anyway, this topic is open for discussion. What is your opinion about it and what did you think of this article? Leave us a comment, we will be eager to know and receive your truth with respect. Anabel BriceñoBrand Advisor and Copywriter for M.O.T.M.V.
5 Signs That You and Your Spouse Should Consider Marriage Counseling
Have you and your spouse been struggling to get along lately? Marriage counseling is an excellent way of working through your issues together. Through the help of a professional who will hear your concerns and suggest practical and thoughtful solutions, there is a chance that you can rebuild a happy, healthy marriage. Not sure if you and your spouse should consider marriage therapy? Here are five signs that you should. Almost All Communication Leads to Arguments If you and your spouse struggle to get along and every conversation leads to arguments and fights, there is likely a severe communication breakdown. This can lead to one or both partners being overly sensitive, getting defensive, or even refusing to communicate. A capable therapist can help you practice efficient and productive communication, where both parties actively listen to and consider each other’s feelings. Lack of Intimacy All married couples eventually struggle to maintain the same level of physical intimacy after the first few years of marriage. This is normal. But, if you and your partner struggle to be intimate at all or there is a lack of passion or intimacy between you both, it may be time you look for a capable marriage counselor. If there’s a lack of intimacy that you and your spouse are concerned about, counseling can help to restore the connection you and your partner once shared. Someone Has Been Unfaithful A common reason for many couples attending marriage therapy is due to an unfaithful partner and attempting to repair broken trust. Cheating is not limited to physical infidelity; it could also mean lying or keeping secrets from your spouse. This depends on what each spouse deems as being unfaithful. Whatever the cause of this infidelity, marriage counseling can help fix the root of the problem and repair damaged trust. You Fight About Finances Many couples have money arguments often. It could be that they have different spending habits, or one party believes the other is not saving enough. Regardless of the cause, this can put a significant strain on a marriage. Therapy helps couples understand their relationship with money and how they can work together to develop solutions instead of allowing it to come between them. You Have Become Indifferent Marriage counseling is necessary if you or your partner have gotten to the stage where you no longer care enough to argue or fight. Indifference is a deeply rooted problem that appears okay on the surface when in reality, the marriage is anything but. Marriage counseling can help you get to the root of the problem and find viable solutions to help rekindle the emotions both parties once had. Contributed by: Steve O’Connor
If you have business plans, you should have a life plan.
Do you consider yourself an organized person who always has a plan or strategy for everything? Are you disciplined and do you like to be prepared in case things don’t go as planned? Do you draw a route plan and practice visualization for the work projects you want to achieve? You have surely achieved success in your studies and in your business. But what about your life? Do you think that you have had to sacrifice a part of it to achieve achievements in another area and that doing so in all of them would be impossible? This seems the most common. And we come to think that it is okay, that it happens to everyone. But this can be improved. You can fully live what you propose if you apply the same procedure in other areas of your life, such as in your personal growth, in your health, in your physique, in your relationships. You already know that you have the ability to achieve goals. Now take that plan to all parts of your life and achieve it. Sometimes we think we are good only at something specific. But the truth is that if you are creative, enthusiastic and committed, you can do whatever you want. You just need to make the decision and focus on what you think is failing and follow your plan with the same delivery with which you dedicate yourself to your businesses or clients. If you went to school or university remember what you had to do to carry out a project and execute it. Sometimes you needed to spend hours, days or months researching, planning and carrying out the tasks to achieve the result that you had to demonstrate. Starting with your life plan is easier than you think, you just need the volition and start to capture in writing and with images or mental maps, (the format is chosen by you) all the things you want to achieve. And like any other strategy think about the opportunities, skills, weaknesses that you have for your next goal. Create strategies and actions to be carried out in established times, just as if you were to present a project in your company, but this will be different. It will be directed and executed by you. And only you know everything that you are going to capture in it, because it is about your dreams and wishes. This is just about making a change in mindset and priorities. Spend the prudent time in each area that you want to be successful and start taking action. Try it, your best companion will be the volition. Anabel BriceñoBrand Advisor and Copywriter for M.O.T.M.V.
Children: Discipline or Connection?
How hard are you on your kids?Do you think that more discipline and authority you impose, the better person he will be? Over the years we have heard that parents are rude for love, because that is the only way for children to learn to be responsible and committed to their own lives. We believe that this is one of the best inheritances we can leave them: being strict parents. But this doesn’t work for everyone, there are people who come from loving and flexible parents and they are well-educated and conscientious adults. There is also a family where the parents were very strict and the children end up taking different paths from those that were instilled in them, being labeled as rebels for this. The truth is that the stories are reversed and nothing is established. each family and each parenting is different and this is valid. But whatever your parenting style and personality as a parent, we want to share two concepts with you:Discipline and connection. According to wikipedia: Discipline is the observance of the rules of conduct and internal functioning established hierarchically by an organization for its members, as well as the sanction of non-observance. But it is also defined as: A set of rules or norms whose compliance constantly leads to a certain result. Now in the first concept if you realize it is about imposing rules that if not followed lead to punishment, the question is, is this what we want for our children? we would be acting as a kind of radical government with them and this only limits and instills fear. In the second concept, a better definition is appreciated and this is an approach that we can give to that discipline that we want to impart to them. Focus this teaching on that if they have discipline of their own free will in their projects or in their life in general then they will achieve the results they want. But discipline sometimes puts us in a higher place as parents, because for years we have been taught respect for the elderly and this is the same as we do with our children. The problem is that many times this respect for discipline turns into fear, distance and lack of connection between parents and children. At that point is that we should NOT get there. That is why we want to introduce you to the CONNECTION concept. According to some specialists in psychology, the connection is: a meeting point, a meeting point between two or more people that keeps them together. We can add that personal connection is empathy, it is love. Through empathy we understand the other and through love we give affection and value, we allow the other to be free and we trust them. Then the connection can be more effective and can help us avoid creating childhood trauma. With this we do not want to tell you that you choose between one and the other, but that you learn to teach healthy discipline instead of imposing it like a moody boss and that at the same time you have a connection with your children. As adults, we must understand that we will not be right all the time even though we have much more experience, that our desire for protection also comes from fear, from our own traumas and we turn it into pressure or scolding and yelling claiming that it is for the good of our children. . You must understand that perhaps you are avoiding some damages but you can cause others. As parents we will never be perfect, but we can try and try to evolve existing parenting patterns for the benefit of our families and society in general. What if today you change the punishment and scolding for a long conversation with your children, where you dedicate yourself more to listening than to establishing rules. You will be surprised to know what they think and both of you will love being able to trust each other through good times and bad. If you liked this article or have conflicting opinions about it, leave us your comment ~Anabel Sabrina BriceñoContributing WriterM.O.T.M. Vaultage
Self-Love vs Vanity?
Self-love is the conscious care of self mentally, physically, and emotionally. Self-care requires the deliberate and active prioritizing of adequate sleep, nutrient-rich meals, a social life with family and friends and exercise. On the other hand, vanity speaks to more of an obsession only with one’s physical appearance. Being vain doesn’t take into consideration the development of a true relationship with self. The Importance of Self-Love To be in love with yourself means connecting with your emotions wholeheartedly. Self-love is important because it puts your physical, emotional, and mental wellness first. Prioritizing self-love places you at an advantage to serve and nurture yourself. Loving yourself makes loving others possible and sustainable. Self-love ensures that self-care practices are implemented to boost the ability to love yourself. The desire to connect with self is more than feeding your ego and being perfect. It’s about an intimate connection that will lead to a better understanding of self that will blossom into genuine care and acceptance. Self-love practices Self-compassion Being patient with yourself as you grow Appreciative of your strengths and weaknesses Understanding who you are Spending alone time with yourself to become aware of your needs Loving and accepting your physical appearance Self-love is never vain because though it focuses on physical appearance, it also prioritizes loving and accepting yourself for who you are internally. Contributed by: Steve O’ConnorCopywriter for M.O.T.M.V.
Social networks: if you compare yourself, you destroy yourself
Do you spend hours looking at the lives of others on social media? Do you think they have perfect lives and you always compare them to yours? It seems that for others everything is going well and you wonder why you are not doing so great? That is why I have titled this article, “if you compare yourself you destroy yourself” The truth is that what you see on social networks is sometimes false, other times people do very well in some aspects and only share those positive moments but hide the negative ones. It has become common for everyone to want to share only their good experiences, but this makes you as a viewer imagine an exaggeratedly perfect world and you don’t understand why you cannot be part of it. Although there are accounts of people who show themselves as they are and are dedicated to inspiring others, there is a large part that represents a superficial world and full of vanity. That is why it is important that you learn that not everything you see is the only thing that happens, and try to be select with the content you consume. Another thing you must remember is that the number of likes or followers does not define people and understand that the anxiety generated by wanting to have them (but it is a strategic work objective) has to do with that desire for approval that we have as Humans. But I want you to know that the only approval you should have is your own approval, to love yourself and value yourself, so when you see something exaggeratedly positive you will know how to identify it, even use it to motivate you and not to frustrate you. It will not matter if you share with a large or small community because you will know what you are worth. To start this journey, the first thing you should do is avoid “comparing yourself” and work on your self-esteem. Use social networks to connect with like-minded people, to grow and be of help to others in that way you will give an enriching approach to the influence that the digital world has on your life and your emotions Anabel BriceñoBrand Advisor and Copywriter for M.O.T.M.V.
News: good or bad for your mental health?
They have invaded us for a long time, we always want to know what is happening, the good ones make us happy, but the bad ones worry us, outrage us and even depress us. Are you aware of the quantity and quality of news you consume on a daily basis? Perhaps you had not thought of it this way, because the fact of “being informed” is so common. Many even worry about knowing what happens to have conversation topics with their circle and not look ridiculous if someone starts a conversation about a current event. It seems that not watching the news is almost impossible, it has become a necessity and they reign in society among any culture. Events, wars, protests, attacks. I dare to say that only 10% of the news is positive on mass traditional channels. This spread almost uncontrollably with the internet and social media, thousands of channels bombarding us with new events every second. Perhaps for you it is natural and it seems even good, to get up in the morning and turn on the TV or read a few web portals before starting your day. But have you thought that this can harm your mental health? Yes, although it seems harmless, it is harmful, but I am not saying that the channels are bad, but the amount of time you spend watching the facts daily. Fortunately we have the power to choose what to see. Positive news causes positive effects on our mood and therefore on our mind and body, but negative news are not very beneficial for your well-being. Of course that will depend on your ability to digest what you hear or see, some people can spend the day watching the news and still be happy and optimistic. But others may feel identified with the events and facts and suffer each segment of the newscast even thinking and talking about it all day. In either case, inconsistently, each information we consume shapes our thoughts and reactions. So it is important that you avoid watching negative news excessively.To take care of your emotions and move forward. Move along? If most of the news only causes stress, fear, uncertainty, helplessness and diverts our thoughts from creativity. So by choosing to give little space to the news in our routine, we can dedicate that time to doing things that inspire us, motivate us and help us make better decisions at home, at work, in life in general. Remember that where your attention is, is your mind, your body and all your creative energy. And I tell you this from my own experience, being a journalist, who transformed her skills and put them at the service of digital marketing, personal growth, the positive. I loved the news, I could spend 24 hours watching or reading it but just when the pandemic began my vision changed completely, and I decided not to consume or share any type of news information and this has undoubtedly helped me to focus on other creative projects and that they also motivate, help inspire other people, the best example is this article you are reading. So my recommendation is that you evaluate, how do you feel when watching the news? How much time do you spend on it during the day? and how do you react to these? Then if you discover that they affect you in any way, try to incorporate these recommendations: Choose to see news only from official sources. Stay informed if you wish, but allocate only 30 minutes a day for this. After watching the news, avoid talking and thinking about it all day. Stop following social media accounts that post unconfirmed news or fake news. Unlike watching the news in the morning and at night, choose to see information about other areas that you develop, for example news about your type of entrepreneurship, about technological advances, about well-being or any other enriching topic. Then evaluate how you feel and if it benefits you, continue with these habits. Your body and mind will thank you. Anabel BriceñoBrand Advisor and Copywriter for M.O.T.M.V.
