The Toxic and The Lonely
How to deal with the environment around me, as it can be toxic, inhibitory, out of my control. Do you think that social isolation on purpose is the best way to avoid conflicts with the people around you? If you constantly choose to withdraw, not relate and hide, because you distrust others and you think that way you can keep your peace, then read on. We can understand that this is the easiest way that you can think of, but we don’t believe that it is the most appropriate to face your fears or insecurities. Yes, because these are the two feelings that generally cause someone to simply want to be alone. Now, we have nothing against loneliness, this is an excellent companion to cultivate your peace, your space and well-being, but it is not a good friend when you go to it, just to flee the world and your own reality. So let’s see the disadvantages of choosing to isolate yourself from everything, so that you reconsider your decision, if you have been contemplating it or are already away from places and people. Prolonged isolation can deteriorate your physical health if you do not invest a lot of time in outdoor activities and also your emotional health, by stopping practicing living with others. By not socializing we can experience to a greater degree, moods such as: sadness, anguish, anxiety, lack of self-esteem, demotivation, apathy and this can lead to depression. So why is it important to maintain our relationships with other people, such as friends, family, and even not-so-well-known people? It is proven that we all need everyone, we have lived in communities for thousands of years and it is not about custom, but about fellowship and group support. We are all born into a family or raised in one, even if they are all different. And it is true that if we go together we will go further. Some personal benefits of relating to others are: Realizing that you are not the only one who faces adverse situations, that makes you empathic. And sharing moments of joy and fun fills you with energy and vitality. Contrary to loneliness for flight, when you relate, your mind can see reality and then find in the environment itself the tools to face any crisis. Connecting allows you to cultivate your self-esteem, security, conflict resolution skills and helps you learn to express and receive affection and support naturally. If you are afraid of linking too much with people or places, you must evaluate what is the cause that prevents you, perhaps there is some unresolved issue in your mind unconsciously that makes you judge all experiences equally as a defense mechanism. We can understand it, it is valid, but this is something that can be fixed. Start by surrounding yourself with people who add, who have things in common with you and with whom you can establish a camaraderie and avoid establishing prejudices before having any experience. Give yourself the opportunity to have enriching relationships and if you have deep-seated doubts or fears, then we invite you to talk with one of our therapists. Book a session and tell us so we can help you. Anabel BriceñoBrand Advisor and Copywriter for M.O.T.M.V.
